Willing to accept is a key to success. Today I talked to a proud man with 60 days of sobriety. He has been working his program passionately.
It is amazing what he has learned about the importance of being willing and not resisting the necessity for changes in his life.
Acceptance has become a new reality in his life and not just in regard to drinking.
Willingness to accept his alcoholism has been his motivating focus. He has plunged into remaining sober with passion and commitment.
He worried about the the effects of his dedicated commitment to remaining sober on his wife and family. Would they understand? Are they holding on to resentments from his past drinking days? Is his involvement in his program generating additional feelings of abandonment and resenment for his family?
He thought his wife was avoiding him and not responsive to him. Was she thinking of leaving him?
He is a man who prefers to avoid talking about himself and possible confrontation.
After reading about willilngness, he chose to be willing to talk to his wife. He did not hold back. He prepared himself to accept his felings and thoughts, which he communicated to his wife. He also prepared himself to accept his wife's feelings, thoughts and decisions.
With a smile on his face, he told me his fears were unfounded. He and his wife are now emotionally connected and feeling acceptance, valildation and belonging.
Willingness and acceptance are ingredients for feeling whole and for having satisfying relationships.
Remember, You Live in the Environment Created by Your Choices!
Life and Mental Fitness Coach