So many people lack goals for themselves. Too many people fail to set relationship goals. I was talking to a man separated from the woman he loved. He felt distraught over their separation and almost resigned to living in a way he did not want.
He could not imagine any potential, successful goals for himself or his relationship. I family challenged him with the goal to "be the person he always wanted to be".
After a few weeks, we talked again and he excitedly told me he had a strategy. Before I could ask him about his strategy, he exclaimed "I have a strategy for being the person I want to be. Being mindful. Being a person I want to be when I am anxious and feeling mentally attacked. My strategy is to be gentle and keep my sense of humor."
He then stated he has had good results and I've been able to keep my "momentum going".
As a result of practicing his new strategy, he had a new awarenes. He was aware that he has "trust issues". Because of his mindfulness and focusing on what he does to create his trust issues, he did not focus in on his significant other as causing his mistrust. Instead he looked inward and was mindful that he has been guarded and lacked of openness in his relationships. He added being open to his strategy.
For greater inner satisfaction and improved relationships, become mindful and set a goal to be the person you've always wanted to be. Your strategy for being open and the person you've always wanted to be will be different and unique.
Being the person you've always wanted to be certain they will feel a lot better than trying to be the person someone else wants you to be!
Remember, You Live within the Environment Created by Your Choices!
Life and Mental Fitness Coach