It is well-known that men have difficulty in relationships with women, because they interact in such a logical and unemotional manner. For a man thinking logically feels right and natural. It is very difficult to conceive that our logic may be wrong.
Although men may use logic to try to understand a woman, our logic can create and intensify relationship issues with women rather than reduce them. Recently, I had the opportunity to talk with a few men who have doubts and suspicions regarding their wives.
With all of them, there was a realistic grain of concern. With all, they attempted to logically obtain information to verify or reject their fears. They have engaged in activities such as analyzing phone records. The more they snoop and logically think about their discoveries, the more distressed, suspicious and distraught they have become.
It appears that what they have logically been trying to understand has begun to destroy their relationships and their self-concepts. Thinking logically feels right to these men, but is turning out to be very wrong.
I remember that I had blogged on Inattentinal Blindness. I wondered if logical men become inattentionally blind.
Does our logical thought processes prevent us from paying attention to the big picture regarding our relationships. Do we become inattentionally blind to the essence of our relationships and the commitment from our significant others?. Do we fail to appreciate the emotions and feelings of our significant others? Do we fail to recognize the logic in women's behavior that can prove beyond any reasonable doubt the faithfulness and enduring commitment women make to men?
Please look at this video on inattentional blindness. After viewing this video, the answer is very clear to me. I believe men's logic fails to solve relationship problems and makes men inattentionally blind to the beauty, commitment and emotions of women. Analyzing what is wrong in your relationship with your significant other will not paint a pretty picture. Forgo the mssion to rationally analyze what is wrong with your significant other.
Remember, We Live within the Relationships Created by Our Choices! Men; If you always analyze what is wrong in your relationships, you will live in a dysfunctional relationship created by your analysis.
Life and Mental Fitness Coach