There's a Mental Fitness Solution for Every Problem!
If you're fit in your head, you can deal with anything!
The main purpose of the mental fitness program and coaching is to take you where you can't get by yourself!
Read about Empty Heart, if you are a parent who acts as if your children don't feel. Please read about Empty Heart, if you have purposely, inappropriately or unwittingly rejected or unnecessarily been angry towards your children.
Tiger Woods has failed to maintain his elite status in the golfing world, since his return to the golfing circuit. Mick Elliott at FANHOUSE called Tiger's current season his "winless season" in Mick's article "Tiger's Par-5 Game Still Isn't up to Par".
Tiger's golf game has been a disaster since his moral indiscretions and marital conflicts became big news.
Mick showed how bad it has been for Tiger. "Ten times since 1997 Woods has finished in the top 10 on the PGA Tour on birdie-or-better conversions on par 5s. This year there are 53 players in front of his 43 percent conversion rate".
What motivates you? What is your mindset? Your mindset is important in every aspect of your life.
We have a very depressing economy. The value of our property is depreciating due to the mortgage fiasco. Many people are worried about maintaining their employment or have lost their employment. Financial pressures magnify problems within marriages and families.
Your mindset determines your financial, interpersonal and psychological status in your life! Today I would like to talk about three different mindsets.
When things go bad in life, many people often exercise the mindset of "not losing". They seem to have a mindset that says "I don't want to lose". Although this mindset may be appropriate at some times in our lives, it usually results in people becoming defensive and protective of themselves and their resources. They try to hold on to what they have rather than increasing what they have. They try to hold onto who they have been rather than growing and changing. They are motivated to not lose rather than to win!
The second mindset is a mindset to win. With this mindset a person is motivated and dedicated to win. No matter how bad the circumstances are, this person is motivated to win at all costs. You probably have heard the saying "when the going gets tough, the tough get going"! With this mindset, people, often times, are obsessed with winning. They view life as competition and they always have to win. They seem to not enjoy what they accomplish and who they are. They are devastated when they cannot win.
The third mindset is a mindset leading to self-actualization and growth. Problems in living are perceived to be opportunities; opportunities for learning, changing and growing. Dr. Alan Goldberg put it this way "You must let go of that obsessive need to win or beat others (which is actually limiting you) and instead focus on being the very best that YOU can be. Simply put you must make your goal improvement, NOT winning.
Steve Siebold writesabout the differences in mindsets between the middle class and millionaires in his new book, How Rich People Think. Steve wrote "It's no mystery why 1% of Americans own 42% of the country's wealth. The good news is the rich are no smarter than the rest of us, they just think differently about money. The secret is to learn their thought processes, habits and philosophies and copy them. It's that simple, and this is what this book is all about."
In your relationships, are you:
Trying to not lose?
Trying to win?
Trying to grow and be yourself?
In your financial life, are you:
Trying to not lose?
Trying to win?
Trying to grow and be yourself?Remember,
Remember, We Live within the Relationship and Finances Created by Our Choices!
Cranky Fitness wrote about Willpower and Won'tpower. Crabby McSlacker focused most on the failure to reach goals on the basis of willpower. He insinuated that there is won'tpower.
I sure like the idea that people have both willpower and won'tpower. I know there is won'tpower. Haven't you had run-ins with won'tpower!
Time and time again, we try to accomplish goals on the basis of willpower only to be thwarted by an insidious, constantly changing, unrecognized force called won'tpower by Crabby.
Crabby shared his own experience: "I actually do wonder if we have natural limits on our willpower, and can only tackle so many challenges at once. At least I observe this phenomenon in myself all the time. Anyone else find that if they're putting a lot of mental effort into one goal, the other stuff starts to slip?"
Can we all identify with Crabby's hypothesis "It's like there's a concrete amount of willpower in my psychological bank account. And if I try to write too many self-improvement checks? The damn things start bouncing."
Because of the difficulty with trying to solve life's problems on the basis of willpower, I created The North Star Mental Fitness Program. I knew willpower was insufficient for completing self improvement projects. I thought the willpower has to be made stronger. I thought the solution must be multifaceted, more complicated, but still possible to obtain.
I liked the concept of mental fitness as it parallels physical fitness. We all know that physical exercises can make people stronger. So can mental exercises make people mentally strong enough to solve their problems or reach their goals. In the North Star Mental Fitness Program, there are 15 strategies or exercises for increasing the power in willpower or for giving us the tools for solving our problems and reaching our goals.
There are strategies for building one's focus, putting focus into action and keeping momentum soaring. There are strategies for coping with frustration and turning won'tpower into willpower.
It does not work to try to beat won'tpower into submission by using willpower.The harder you try to destroy won'tpower, the stronger it becomes. Sometimes our unconscious mind specializes in won'tpower and fights against our conscious efforts to achieve self-fulfillment. When won'tpower appears, it is much like an acting out, screaming child. It must be dealt with immediately. You cannot ignore a screaming child nor won'tpower.
If you are not reaching their goals and solving your problems, get help for your won'tpower.
Remember, We Live within the Environment Created by Our Choices!