There's a Mental Fitness Solution for Every Problem!
If you're fit in your head, you can deal with anything!
The main purpose of the mental fitness program and coaching is to take you where you can't get by yourself!
Susan Boyle's worldwide recognition on Britain's Got Talent is remarkable for a person who has been labeled with learning disabilities. She has captured the hearts of millions of people because of her heartwarming talent. A talented woman labeled as learning disabled due to a lack of oxygen at birth. A woman called "Simple Susan", while she was in school.
As with many people diagnosed with learning disabilities, Susan lived a reclusive life. She settled for a life of minimal accomplishment consistent with her diagnosis. At times, she was known for her emotional outbursts and undoubtedly was perceived as being "weird" by others. Too often learning disabled people are perceived to be intellectually deficient and nonproductive members of society.
Is Susan Boyle learning-disabled? Certainly not in regard to her singing ability. In comparison with Susan, I am learning-disabled in music. How can I have a PhD degree and be learning-disabled? Susan could obtain a PhD in music, so is she really learning-disabled?
Susan's accomplishment in Britain's Got Talent is a tremendous success for her. In spite of her diagnosis of learning disability, she courageously expressed her talent for the whole world to see. Although she has psychological weaknesses, we cannot understand estimate her mental fitness, courage and ability to perform under very difficult circumstances.
We must use caution in using a diagnosis of learning disability. We must realize that everyone has talents and learning disabilities. We must not destroy the identity and talents of people whom we label "learning-disabled". We must be clear in communicating to the learning-disabled that they are only learning-disabled in some areas and the have talents in other areas.
Oftentimes, our cars need gas at the most inconvenient times. It does not matter where you are going or why. When your car is empty or approaches emptiness, there is a sense of urgency that takes priority over all of your plans and goals. You must find a gas station.
Have you noticed that you or your significant other, oftentimes, are empty or approach emptiness at the most inconvenient times?
Have you ever wondered why we did not have the same sense of urgency to satisfy our or our significant other's wants and needs? Probably our significant others would not know what to do, if we put on hold our important plans in order to be sensitive to the wants and needs of our spouses and children.
We must act to self-actualize ourselves by pursuing our wants and needs and goals.
We also must become sensitive and responsive to our significant other's wants, needs and goals, whenever they are empty or approach emptiness.
Knowing our significant others have wants and needs is not enough for having good relationships.
Expecting, accepting and recognizing, on a daily basis, our significant others are empty or signaling emptiness is not enough for having satisfying and sensitive relationships.
Action is necessary but what kind of action?
1. Listening and by listening you communicate that your significant others are important and you trust their ability to manage their lives.
2. Communicating your nurturing feelings and values regarding your significant others.
3. Keeping promises.
4. Independently and consistently assuming responsibilities and chores necessary for your relationship to survive.
5. Paying attention without making judgments and demeaning comments.
Remember, it is normal for you and your significant others to become empty at the most inconvenient times. I hope that this series will help you become more responsive to your wants and needs and the wants and needs of your significant others.
Remember, You Will Live within the Relationships Created by Your Choices!
Life and Mental Fitness Coach
The other posts in regard to emptiness and signals of emptiness are:
Do you know very much about the history of Memorial Day? Do you know what Memorial Day was first celebrated? The importance of Memorial Day becomes more significant, when we realize the history of honoring our war heroes.
Divorce is inevitable, when people do not expect, identify, accept and recognize emptiness and signals of emptiness in themselves or their partners. Dysfunctional relationships are also the results of people's failure to understand emptiness and signals of emptiness.
You may expect and accept your car to approach empty on a regular basis. However, if you fail to recognize the message given to you by the gas gage, you are destined to sit at the side of the road. Failure to recognize signals of emptiness and emptiness is the prescription for prolonged emptiness and eventual failure.
With cars, it is easy to recognize the signal, because we only have one place to look in order to find the signal. Since humans have enumerable signals of emptiness, it is more difficult to recognize your significant other's signals.
Sometimes the signals will be thoughts (I think our relationship sucks) or feelings (you don't love me anymore). Sometimes the signals will be seen in behavior (dirty looks or slamming doors) or in your relationship (arguing and avoiding each other). Sometimes the signals of emptiness will be seen in activities (affairs, irresponsible spending and engaging in self-defeating behaviors).
It is necessary to recognize signals of emptiness when they occur. It is important to interpret and understand our partner's signals of emptiness are not weaknesses, criticisms or attempts to control us.
It is very important for us to recognize when our partners have wants, needs or desires to fulfill themselves. If we want satisfying and satisfactory interpersonal relationships with our significant others, it is important to recognize their individuality without feeling rejected or ignored.
By accepting and recognizing your significant other's signals of emptiness as only signals of emptiness, you can have an inner peace in stead of emotional pain and your significant others will realize that you are there for them.
Live in the now! Let us recognize when we are empty and our significant others are empty. If we do not recognize emptiness and signals of emptiness in ourselves and our significant others, we are destined to have dysfunctional relationships, emotional detachment and divorce.
Life and Mental Fitness Coach
The other posts in regard to emptiness and signals of emptiness are:
Brain plasticity refers to the brain's ability to rewire itself. What triggers brain plasticity is one of the exciting pursuits of researchers. Repetition of activities or brain exercises triggers brain plasticity. However, in reality, repetition of activities or brain exercises do not automatically trigger brain plasticity. Paying attention and concentrating on repetition of activities can trigger brain plasticity.
Science News had a very interesting and enlightening article on the visual triggers for brain plasticity. Takao Hensch, PhD, of the Neurobiology Program and Department of Neurology at Boston Children's Hospital, reported that their research identified a protein Otx2 which can trigger the brain's ability to learn. Dr. Hensch wrote:
Otx2 helps a key type of cell in the cortex to mature, initiating a critical period -- a window of heightened brain plasticity, when the brain can readily make new connections.
The work was done in a mouse model of the visual system, a classic model for understanding how the brain sets up its wiring in response to input from the outside world.
The researchers speculated that our other senses may also operate similarly in creating critical periods for learning in the brain. The brain has to rewire itself during the critical period and when there is maximum sensory input.
Dr. Hensch reported "If the timing is off, the brain won't set up its circuits properly".
Here is the most surprising and enlightening finding:
the brain cells that switch on critical periods in the visual system (parvalbumin cells) don't actually make Otx2 themselves. Instead, Otx2 is sent by the retina. In essence, the eye is telling the brain, "The eyes are ready and seeing properly -- you can rewire now."
The eye is telling the brain when to become plastic rather than vice versa. Otx2 is originally produced during embryonic development Some days after birth, it reappears in parvalbumin cells. "The nervous system is recycling an embryonic factor to induce brain plasticity," says Hensch.
Hensch, who last fall won the highly competitive NIH Director's Pioneer Award, is also interested in the transport mechanism that propagates Otx2 from the retina to the cortex. He speculates that Otx2 itself could be a carrier for factors you'd want to deliver to the brain, envisioning eye drops for brain disorders such as schizophrenia, in which parvalbumin cells don't properly mature.
At age 78, Chuck Daly died. He will be remembered as one of the best basketball coaches in the history of the sport. He led the "US Dream Team" to a gold medal in the 1992 Olympics. He led the Detroit Pistons, who were known as the "Bad Boys", to 2 NBA championships. Although he will be remembered as a very successful coach, his wish to be remembered as a "nice guy" will never die.
Coach Daly's coaching philosophy evolved from being strict, demanding perfection and "playing by the book". He realized he needed to know his players before he could teach what he wanted them to know.
The Daily News wrote: "Unlike most coaches, who are first-degree control freaks, Daly never stole the spotlight. Like any good boss, Daly always trusted his talent, and knew his guys would find a way to win".
Dave Dye, New Staff Writer, wrote an interesting article regarding the evolution in Chuck Daly's coaching. Although the article appeared on October 18, 1985, it is very enlightening regarding the secret of Coach Daly success.
Dave Dye wrote:
But not always did this adaptability come so naturally. Daly recalls many moments during the beginning of his coaching career at Punxsutawney (Pa.) High School when he exhibited more of a Bob Knight tough-guy demeanor than his own easy-going style that's made him so popular and successful within the NBA circle. "To be honest, that's probably one of the biggest things I had to overcome," said Daly, whose team opens the regular season Oct. 25 against Milwaukee at the Silverdome.
"You're constantly fighting your own ego. That was one of the hardest things for me. In high school, I was very, very strict. I thought I had to be the hard guy. If one of the kids didn't play aggressively one day, I'd make him wear a towel around himself the next. It looked like a dress, and it told him he was a sissy.
"I learned over the years, though, and I became more open-minded. I remember when I was a (biology) teacher. I used to be so organized and strict in taking attendance. And I did everything straight out of the book. I thought that was being such a good teacher. At the same school, there was another guy who was really laid-back. It didn't seem like he was doing anything. He told them stories and there didn't seem to be any control in the class. At least compared to some of our classes. But we found out later he was the best teacher. The kids related to him better and did the work. I think that opened up my eyes quite a bit.
Daly's coaching philosophy has been based on that criteria. Vince Lombardi would shudder, but Daly is more or less one of the guys. At practices, he often jokes around. He can be seen practicing imaginary golf shots or trying to bounce a basketball off the floor into the hoop.
"In this business a lot of people get treated badly," said Piston Vinnie Johnson. "It means something when you know there's a guy you can trust. Some coaches are afraid to get involved with that type of relationship. They feel the players may take advantage of them then. They have to try to scare you into doing things. But that's not how it works here."
Said Thomas: "We do more for him because of that. He's helped me with things off the court. You don't forget that when you're out there."
Unlike many coaches, Daly doesn't see getting close to his players as a dangerous practice. "This is such a long grind, there are many nights they don't have to play (hard)," he said. "You better be a reason for them to do that. Anyhow, I'm not as nice as everybody always says. I put my foot down when I have to. But I just see no reason why there has to be a constant conflict if you can avoid it."
All of us can learn from Coach Daly regarding the psychology of relationship-based success. We can apply his coaching philosophy in parenting, business and family relationships.
We will miss Chuck Daly. We will remain appreciative of his successes and what he has taught us.
Researchers at the Northern Ireland Centre for Trauma and Transformation evaluated cognitive therapy for people infected by terrorism and civil conflict. 58 people were studied. Patients with chronic posttraumatic stress disorders associated with terrorism and civil conflict were split into two groups. One group received cognitive therapy immediately and a second group was put on a waiting list for 12 weeks prior to beginning their cognitive therapy.
"At 12 weeks, patients in the immediate therapy group showed significant and substantial reductions in the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder and depression.
In contrast, patients in the waiting list group showed no change.
The therapy group also had improved levels of work and social functioning.
Thirty-eight per cent of those in the waiting list group deteriorated during the 12 week period compared to just seven per cent the therapy group.
The treatment gains made were well maintained at the follow-up assessments.
These are very impressive statistics. The statistics validate cognitive therapy as an effective treatment for survivors of posttraumatic stress disorders precipitated by terrorists and civil conflict. The study also provides hope for people for people who have survived attacks by terrorist and civil conflict.