There's a Mental Fitness Solution for Every Problem!
If you're fit in your head, you can deal with anything!
The main purpose of the mental fitness program and coaching is to take you where you can't get by yourself!
An American Psychological Association study in 2005 discovered that 80% of Americans "say that during the past few years they have become more aware how their mental health and emotions can affect their physical health".
58% of Americans believe that they cannot have good physical health without good mental health.
These studies emphasize the importance of mind fitness for good physical health.
If you believe in the importance of mind fitness for obtaining and maintaining good health, then I urge you to read this blog, make comments, interact and share your experiences.
I am Dr. Hal. I have been a licensed psychologist for over 30 years. I have blogged about mental fitness at the North Star Mental Fitness Blog. I am grateful that HealthCare.com invited me to join this community and for the opportunity to blog about Mental Fitness for Good Health.
I read a wonderful article on Mental Fitness by Mark Salinas. I urge you to read this article as it is loaded with mental fitness tips.
Mark wrote "athletes know their real battle is not so much on the field or track, but inside their mind".
This quotation reminds me of a talk I had with a very skilled archer. For 10 years, he could not get past shooting 90%. Shooting 9 out of 10 arrows successfully sounded great to me, but not for a professional archer. Only after studying mental fitness and sports psychology was he able to improve his shooting.
As I read what Mark wrote, I quickly realized that people's problems with their spouses, children, parents, employers or employees are not due to the other individual. We like to blame other people and wish that they would change. Professional athletes and athletes in the stadiums of human experience, know that the battle is inside their mind. We must learn how to change how we think about the important people in our lives in order to change our feelings and reduce our conflicts.
From a mental fitness perspective, you can change your feelings by changing your thinking; not by trying to change the other person. The other person does not have to make significant changes in order for us to change our feelings. Your mental fitness can never be dependent on someone else. Your mental fitness depends on your thinking and mind conditioning.
Mark put it this way "it is a must that you manage your mental state".
Your thinking for victorious living depends on training your mind to be fit and tough. This is why I became a Life and Mental Fitness Coach.
Remember, You Live within the Environment Created by Your Choices!
For a long time I have been blogging. In fact, I have made 350 posts. I have enjoyed the new acquaintances I have made, including fellow bloggers with similar interests. I have especially enjoyed and appreciated the comments made by readers of my blog.
As you may have noticed, the frequency of my posts has decreased. I have been researching various ideas for increasing interpersonal interaction and communication between myself and the readers of this blog. Blogging has been way too impersonal form me and I think for most of my readers.
I want to know my readers. I want to know your feelings, thoughts and goals. I want to interact with you, my readers, while you are applying mental fitness concepts to improve the quality of your lives. I want to know where you are stuck and where you are progressing.
I have chosen to start a newsletter by the name of "Mind Fitness". I have some great ideas regarding how to make mental fitness more personal and interactive. I'll also be asking you for your ideas.
You may have noticed on the upper right corner of my blog, there is a "Sign Me Up" place for you to click and become a recipient of the newsletter. The newsletter will be free. I hope you will sign up. However, I hope you will only sign up if you want to interact and feel empowered in applying mental fitness in your life.
Family values has become an electrifying issue for the University of Michigan football team. The controversy regarding family values surfaced when offensive guard, Justin Boren left the team, because the team's "family values have eroded". His statement was extremely painful. After all, he was a second-generation football player at U. of M. The quotation from Justin Boren was embedded in an article "Rick Rodriguez is building a proud program at Michigan" which appeared in Koala325.
Bob Flounders from the Patriot News wrote an aspiring article on family values. The story was about the heartbreaking losses experienced by the Mealer and Richer families and about the victories experience as the result of family values, faith and fitness.
Elliott Mealer is a very talented football player, who committed to play for the University of Michigan. On Christmas Eve in 2007, a car accident took the life of his father and his girlfriend, Hollis Richer. Elliott, his mother and brother Brock survived. Brock had a severely damaged spinal cord and broken wrist.
The importance of family values was seen at the time of the accident, when Elliott tried to lift a section of the SUV to free his loved ones. As a result he had a torn rotator cuff injury.
Elliott talked about his father's love and commitment to his family. "My father was the type of guy who would do everything for the family". When he was in the second grade, Elliott remembered talking to his father that he wanted to go to a school where they played football. Elliott said "we ended up moving".
Life has not been easy for Elliott, since the accident. Elliott confided "I can't get the vision of the wreck out of my mind. My girlfriend, my dad, I'm still going through stages". Elliott went on to say "what makes it really hard is that my dad and my girlfriend were my best friends".
Family, faith and fitness has helped Elliott go on since the tragic accident. Elliott attributed his faith to his girlfriend. "She has such a strong faith. I've never seen anybody with faith as strong as hers" said Elliott.
A bond developed between the Mealer and Richer families. Since the accident, Elliott has lived with the Richer family. Obviously, the Mealer and Ricter families had nurtured very strong family values based on faith.
Bob Flounders wrote "faith has carried Elliott Mealer in the six months since the life-alternating the accident and faith has convinced him that his brother will to defy doctors' predictions that he would never walk again".
If you want to know what faith and fitness are all about, listen to the words of Elliott's brother, Brock. "Well, I know I am going to walk again. I don't know how long it will take, it may take 10 years, but I'm going to do it."
Elliott calls his brother "Miracle Mealer". Talking about his brother, Elliott predicted "when he puts his mind to something, it gets done". Elliott has another brother by the name of Blake. Elliott went on to say "Blake and I were the athletes, but Brock's tougher than all of us".
I want to conclude this inspiring story by talking about family values that transcend the fierce rivalry between Ohio State and Michigan. Brock's spirits were recently encouraged by a phone call from Jim Tressel, the Ohio State Football Coach.
Former University Of Michigan Football Coach, Lloyd Carr, used his influence to get brought into U of M's medical facility. Even though Brock is a Ohio State student, Rich Rodriquez and his staff have regularly visited and encouraged Brock. Brock stated "Coach Rodriquez and his assistants have been great to me".
Life is about family values, faith and fitness. The Mealer family, the Richer family, Elliott, Brock, Coach Carr, Coach Tressel and Coach Rodriquez have together created an inspiring story for us all to emulate. Yes, the coaches and players at the University of Michigan still have family values.
Remember, We Live within the Environment Created by Our Choices!
I LIVE WITHIN THE ENVIRONMENT CREATED BY MY CHOICES has been validated. Two years ago, she was devastated by the sudden death of her husband. They had been through difficult times in their lives together. At the time of his untimely death, an environment of calmness and love flourished between them.
I told her story in After Death Do Us Part. Now let me tell you the rest of her story. Her husband had a horrible accident, resulting in a broken neck. He no longer was able to work and his quality of his life declined tremendously. At that time, she was employed in the job with no future of advancement. In addition, her job was not allowing her to achieve her dreams and utilize her talents.
Much to the surprise and disappointment of her husband, she quit her job. He withdrew from her angrily, because there was no money being made by them. She still pursued her dream in spite of the coldness and lack of support from her husband.
She pursued her dream by entering school, graduating and becoming an exceptional teacher. At the time of her husband's death, he had let go of his resentments towards her for pursuing her dream, when his dreams had ended. She had accomplished her dream to be a teacher, when he died.
Life was good for them. They were sharing their goals and were emotionally connected, when he suddenly died. She was emotionally devastated, alone. She felt cheated. Although she momentarily felt like quitting, she did not quit!
She continued with her education and achieved an advanced degree. She has received accolades for her teaching. She is now launching her new career as a school administrator. She is selling her home and moving. She has remained focused on her dreams in spite of the problems she has with her sons. She has learned to detach from rescuing her sons.
Today, this woman realizes the powerfulness of her choices. She clearly sees how her choices are creating the environment she desires. She understands that her happiness, peace of mind, freedom and control over her life has been generated by her choice making and not by external circumstances.
She has had the courage to make difficult decisions during the course of caring for herself. She has remained focused, even though her heart was broken by the death of her husband and the unproductive ways of her children.
No matter how bad her circumstances have been, she has remained focused on pursuing and living her dreams.
Remember, You, Too, Live within the Environment Created by Your Choices!
Who would've thought that a Catholic priest would say "God damn America". We have all heard the poisonous messages of Reverend Wright and Reverend Michael Pleger. These two priests have been scrutinized by the media in regard to their influence in the political arena of the upcoming election.
I admire Steve for his pointing out the silence of the Catholic Church in regard to the cancer within. Why has the Catholic Church remained silent? Why has the Catholic Church failed to censor these two abberant reverends?
Why has the Catholic Church allowed the world to be misinformed about Christianity and said nothing?
I do not want to make this post a debate over the moral and spiritual decline of the Catholic Church. The silence of the Catholic Church certainly suggests that the moral decline in society has become embedded in the Catholic Church.
What I want to point out is that the Catholic Church has lost its mental fitness and mental toughness.
When an individual or organization is mentally fit, the organization is committed to their goal. A mentally fit individual or organization will be motivated to take care of themselves.
Obviously, the Catholic Church has not stepped up and has not taken care of itself. It has not been true to the essence of Christianity. It has failed to censor their representatives, who have been damaging to its cause.
I applaud Steve Siebold for bringing to our attention the need to hold the Catholic Church as well as the two priests accountable. We also must be accountable. We must take care of ourselves!
Remember, We Live within the Environment Created by Our Choices!