Educational Articles
Learning Life's Lessons
The ultimate question in all of any psychological search is "what is my lesson here?" "What do I need to learn from this situation which is ...What to Do?
Betty loves Stan but she is not "in love" with him. He has proposed marriage. What she should do? Betty admires many of Stan’s qualities. ...Weak, Incapable and Dependant
Hubert feels weak and incapable. He has been programmed to feel this way by a fearful mother and a domineering and demeaning father. He has come ...To Communicate or Not
Melina solves her problems by talking. Melina has learned to get what she wants in a very subtle ways by using her logic and debating abilities to ...They Have Nothing in Common
They cannot communicate. Both feel a sense of loneliness, disappointment and injustice. As they have completely different interests and opinions ...The Victim
Martha, 65 years old, has identified with the role of the victim since she got married fifty years ago. She plays on the others’ pity and ...The Rebel, The Revolutionary, The Antagonist
Jake is a "rebel." He believes others want to control him and prevent him from doing what he would like to do. He easily feels suppressed and ...The Parent, The Savior, The Teacher, The Responsible
Anthony plays the role of "savior." He feels responsible for just about everyone’s reality. He believes he must come to their rescue and ...The Interrogator
Katherine plays the role of the interrogator. She would have made a good lawyer. She controls others by playing with their need for her approval. ...The Intimidator
Elias is an Intimidator. He seeks to control others by making them fear him. He obstructs them from asking anything of him or from controlling ...The Guilty, The Sinner, The Bad, The Evil One
Susan tends to feel guilty. She has been programmed to believe that she is an unworthy, evil sinner. This causes her to incessantly seek her ...The Aloof
Manfred tends to withdraw into himself and seldom communicates his feelings, thoughts or needs. His wife and children find him to be aloof. He ...The Absent Spouse
Janice’s husband Ted is seldom home. He prefers the office, the club and the bar. On the weekends he goes hunting with his male friends. She ...Super Woman
Katerina is very conscientious, a hard worker and reliable in all cases. At work and at home, she can be depended on to get things done. She often ...Strength and Fear - Emotion and Logic
A few years ago, Angela almost fainted in the center of town. She felt helpless. She was losing her senses among all those strangers. She feared ...Social Life
Thomas does not feel comfortable with people. Alice needs frequent social contact. If it were up to Thomas, he would never have people over to ...Shame
Diana often feels ashamed of her husband’s behavior. Programmed by an aristocratic family, she has learned to give much importance to ...Self Suppression
Susan suppresses herself in order to be accepted and loved. However, those around her don’t do the same. She feels mistreated and believes ...Self Evaluation
Today Charles has discovered that his coworker Andy had a more successful professional year than he did. Andy sold more accounts and was commended ...Self Suppression
Anna does whatever she is asked to do even when she doesn’t want to do it. Feeling mistreated, she grumbles, complains and bursts out in ...Perfectionism
Marina’s perfectionism annoys her husband, Dan. Marina cannot relax if whatever she does is not perfect. Of course, nothing is ever perfect ...Perfect, Strong and Conscientious
Janet is a superwoman. She is extremely capable, efficient and conscientious. When she has something to do, she will not rest until it is ...How Our Personal Reality is Created
A Change of Attitude I was sitting on a bench in the National Park in the center of Athens, Greece while three children played nearby. ...Parental Pressure
Steven is a student at a well-known university. He is not happy. He has lost interest in his major and does not want to continue. His parents will ...Our Happiness is Dependant On How the Other is
Anastasia cannot feel well when her husband Antonis is not well. Anastasia is extremely attached to Antonis’ being well for a few basic ...Mother In Law
Phillip’s mother-in-law Olga has moved in. She tends to intrude into their lives, telling them what they are doing wrong and criticizing ...Mother In Law
Elias is caught between the two women he loves, his wife and his mother. His wife Miriam is quite upset and hurt because she does not feel ...Mirroring Negativity
Nick needs to share his problems with his wife when he arrives home from work. His wife Olga, however, becomes depressed when hearing his ...Meaningful Work
Aggelos is dissatisfied with his work and wants to quit. His wife Elli is afraid. Aggelos is confused. He does not enjoy going to work. He is not ...A 30 Year Old Child
Both Phyllis and her husband Hank experience inner conflict because their thirty- year-old son has not yet become economically independent. Their ...Addiction
He is in denial. Occasionally for some brief moments when alone, he can see and accept that fact. He believes that everyone around him is ...Loud Neighbors
Beverly lives with her husband and children in an apartment building. The tenants upstairs seem to have little consideration or respect for ...Losing Weight and Smoking Cigarettes
Michael rejects Nancy for being overweight and she condemns his smoking. They have a discipline problem. They cannot control certain needs and ...Just Divorced
Margarita’s husband just left her for another woman. Her world has collapsed. She feels rejected, betrayed, hurt, depressed, belittled, ...Jealousy
Bill is very jealous of Efi and does not want her to ever leave the house without him. He is afraid that some man might approach her, and he ...Introduction To Lifes Lessons
Life is a school. Our experiences are our lessons and tests. We have the opportunity and freedom to learn or not. We can continue to suffer ...Illness
She has been ill for many years and this is taking its toll on her husband Sam and the children. At times they feel she is using her illness to ...If They Loved Me, They Would Respond To My Needs
Amy feels hurt and angry because no one in her family loves her enough to respond to her needs. She has repeatedly expressed to the members of ...His Wife is Never Home
Bill feels rejected and demeaned by the fact that his wife Antonia is out of the house so much. He has expressed his displeasure in a number of ...He Doesn't Love Me
Sonia is unhappy because she feels her husband Philip does not love her. How does she know this? He is not affectionate with her. He does not ...Good, Righteous and Spiritual
Paul is very much identified with portraying the role of the "good, righteous and spiritual person.". That is not to say that he is not a good ...Freeing Ourselves From Mirroring and Projecting
From the book Relationships of Conscious Love After having completed the questionnaire in the previous chapter, the next step is to work ...Fear of Death
George, now fifty-two, suddenly fears death. He had always been a strong a capable man and was considered to be an example of professional and ...Fear He is Having an Affair
Wendy is sure that her husband Mark is having an affair. She has no concrete proof but she just knows it in her heart. She is afraid, deeply hurt ...Fear Concerning the Children
Nora has intense fears concerning her children’s welfare. She is afraid that they might become ill and has nightmares about the possibility ...Fear and Jealousy, Suppression and Rebellion
Valery is not very sure of herself as woman. She doubts whether a man can stay interested in her for a long period of time. She rejects her ...Does Not Keep Agreements
Sonny says "YES" to whatever request is made of him, but never follow through with the agreement. Afterward, he feels guilty, becomes defensive, ...Do Not Change My Program
Albert is a very organized person. He likes everything to be in its place and to be in control in all situations. In order to feel safe, he needs ...Different Sexual Needs
Fanny lost her desire for sexual contact early in her marriage. This has become a serious problem for her husband Dennis. Although he tries not ...Death of a Loved One
Sofia, who is only 45, with three children, lost her husband three months ago. Nothing can lesson her deep pain. They had lived together for 25 ...Communication Problems
Anna enjoys sharing her feelings with her husband Paul. She also needs to know what he is feeling and thinking in return. When she is unable to ...Cannot Be Happy When Others Are Not
Tatiana is very sensitive and identifies emotionally with those close to her. She finds it very difficult to be happy when anyone near her is not ...Anxiety About Grades
John and Barbara have three children in junior and senior high school. Their house is the site of frequent battles concerning how much the ...Anger
It is not that she does not feel anger. She often feels hurt and angry, but she never expresses that anger to those around her. She rejected anger ...Alcoholic Father and Husband
Mary’s father was an abusive alcoholic. Her husband Tony is following in his footsteps. As is quite common, Mary has selected a husband who ...To finish the moment, to find the journey's end in every step of the road, to live the greatest number of good hours, is wisdom.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
